Child Arrangements post-divorce are a challenging time for all parties involved – no more so than the children who are or at least should be, at the centre of focus for the separating families. Too often we hear of warring ex-couples, of children ‘caught in the middle’ and of legal fees amounting into thousands. As a society, we’ve recently noticed that male suicide is high, … Continue reading Child Arrangements: Why not 50:50 shared care for your child?
“Daddy…” They began. I knew from the tone of their voice that this might not end well for me. It was only one word, but the intonation was laden with honesty, purpose, and that uncomfortable feeling you get when someone says ‘we need to talk’. “Yes?” I replied, giving them my full attention whilst internally bracing. Let the inquisition commence. “You know Mummy has a … Continue reading Dating tips from children
What’s your experience (Dads) of days out with the kids when you are solely in charge? Is it women fawning over your masterful control of your delightful offspring as Hollywood would have us believe? Or do you find yourself on the defensive as seemingly innocuous statements about ‘how well you seem to be doing’ come across as patronising; like you’re only looking after the kids … Continue reading Should we change the conversation about ‘Daddy Daycare’?
Before we start, I appreciate some of you will be cross at the site of the C word this early in September – I’m with you on that… the thought of getting that box of those shiny things and those lights out after a sunny day out on the beach yesterday would pain me too. But that’s not what this article is about. This is … Continue reading Divorce and Christmas
Are you comfortable with your own company? I mean really comfortable? The truth is that you probably won’t know until you spend a considerable amount of time on your own. And that’s the lot for the newly single parent – when the children are with the other parent, all of a sudden you have a lot of time to yourself and fewer demands on that time. … Continue reading Single Parent: Getting used to your own company
“Nanny”, the 4 year old says, “I have something important to tell you.” A collective intake of breath was audible. You never quite know what they are going to come out with, do you? Is it going to be something related to which food groups were consumed at lunch today, or is it going to be something from that conversation she overheard when you thought … Continue reading Divorce Diary: A child’s eye view on discipline